Mount Gulian Historic Site, Beacon, NY. (above)
Hudson Valley wedding sites
Cole Hill Farm Estate in Marbletown
Since June is prime-time for weddings, I interviewed Judy Lewis, a.k.a the Wedding Guru, and owner/founder of Hudson Valley Weddings, a directory and resource for everything wedding related in the Hudson Valley, for advice on how to plan the perfect Hudson Valley wedding, and the perks of getting married in the Hudson Valley.
HVGS: For couples who are thinking about planning a wedding in the Hudson Valley, what are a few key things to consider in terms of planning?
Judy Lewis: Parties work best and are the most fun when they follow the style of the people making them. Don't try to imitate. Don't try to outdo. Don't try to show off or be who you're not. Look at yourself and decide what kind of event you enjoy attending and what makes you comfortable. Then, go ahead and plan an event that reflects who you are.
When selecting a wedding date (and other associated events), make sure not to conflict with dates that are "no no's" (e.g., Roman Catholics: no Marriages during Holy Week. Jewish: No Saturday or holy day weddings) or which will make attending the affair more difficult. You might avoid a holiday weekend if many your guests live far away.
Educate yourself. Read as much information as you can about planning a wedding. HudsonvalleyWeddings.com is an excellent source and its' free! Attend several bridal shows to see "what's out there" and ask questions of friends and family who have recently planning events.
HVGS: What are the perks of getting married in the Hudson Valley? Overall is it less expensive than planning a wedding in say Manhattan?
JL: The Hudson Valley offers something for everyone. Whether you're looking for an elegant, elaborate hall, a rustic barn, a breathtaking view, all of these and more are available in the Hudson Valley. There are certainly less expensive places to hold a wedding in the Valley; choices that are not available in New York City. But, more importantly, most venues will give you more bang for your buck as compared with venues in Manhattan.
HVGS: What is a question that a bride or groom always asks the Wedding Guru?
JL: The most frequently are asked of the Wedding Guru are questions about money, budget, and who pays for what. Most people need to function within some budgetary parameters, so it's a challenge to plan a beautiful event, while staying within financial constraints. Because families often need to negotiate, this is a place where planning and organization, plus compassion and compromises are absolutely necessary. The Wedding Guru advise s that you open and keep open lines of communication amongst all those involved in planning and that you set a budget and stick to it!
HVGS: Are there any trends you see in Hudson Valley weddings? Are people opting for more casual affairs to save costs?
JL: It should come as no surprise that the recession is impacting many of the popular wedding trends for 2010. Couples are hosting more intimate weddings, with fewer guests, mostly just immediate family and very close friends. Backyard, at-home weddings have always been a popular choice, but they are even more so, now. These events can be more casual and couples can opt for less expensive choices, like a barbecue, which is perfectly acceptable for a backyard wedding, but wouldn't "work" at the country club. "Backyard" weddings need not be "at home." They can be held at a local park, beach, or barn. "Throw up" a tent to ensure against inclement weather. Thrill your female guests by allowing them to wear flats in lieu of heels. And, as for the guys, they'll love you for not making them wear a tux.
Another continuing trend speaks to the fact that residents of the Hudson Valley have always been and continue to be in the forefront of the eco-friendly movement and they naturally apply these principles toward planning their weddings. They have come to realize that nothing need be sacrificed in order to keep a wedding earth-friendly. They have found that it just takes a little more creativity and perhaps a bit more work.
They choose recycled paper invitations and organic flowers. They host the ceremony and the reception at the same venue, so that guests needn't drive from one place to another. The eco-friendly couple may choose to arrive on bicycles, or in a horse-drawn carriage. The products they choose are all checked carefully to make certain that they are ecologically "correct." Supplies (food, flowers, etc.) Food from local vendors are given preference and leftovers are donated to a homeless shelter, the flowers and decorations go to somewhere they can be reused and/or enjoyed.
The bride may have her bridesmaids opt either to wear a dress that they already own, or to buy one that can be worn again. Many such brides will also put their gowns on-line for resale at one of web's resellers, such as HudsonValleyWeddings.com.
For couples who want to plan such a wedding, I suggest the Wedding Guide article "Planning a Green, Politcally and Socially Conscientious Wedding and then check our HudsonValleyWeddings.com's "Green Weddings" category at "Green Weddings" for vendors who will fit the bill.
HVGS: What are a few ideas for something a little less traditional than a sit-down catered wedding dinner?
JL: The selection of "traditional" Hudson Valley venues runs the gamut from period homesteads, classic villas and country manors, estates, historic homes, intimate rooms, rental halls, hotel ballrooms, restaurants, private golf-yacht-country clubs, outdoor or at-home weddings, wedding "emporiums," bed and breakfasts, inns and wineries, to seasoned barns, parks, and gardens.
For the real nonconformists there are trains, hot air balloons, zoos, museums, art galleries, arboretums, ships, yachts, and old-fashioned river boats. The less conforming a site is, the more difficult it will be to plan. Nevertheless, I advise couple to go for it and have fun and to check out the Wedding Guide article on HudsonValleyWeddings.com Called " Choosing Your Wedding Location, a cornerstone decision"
HVGS: Are Hudson Valley weddings on the rise? Anything else you'd like readers to know?
JL: The Hudson Valleywas "discovered" by bridal couples quite a while ago, so the Valley is no stranger to people from all over who are looking for a special place to hold their weddings. What surprises me is that after twenty-two years in the area, I am still being introduced to new venues with which I am not familiar. I suggest that couples visit "Find A Vendor" on HudsonValleyWeddings.com, often, as new venues and new merchants are added almost daily. Wedding in general have slowed down during this recession, but they're on the upturn again.
Mohonk Preserve, New Paltz, NY,